women and their attitude towards sex ... Do Russian women like sex? ...
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We will tell you a
little bit about Russian women and sex, and will try to give you some
advice as to how to handle the sex topic with a Russian lady
Without any doubt, the
topic of “Russian women and sex” and “Russian women’s attitude towards
sex” is too personal and is a difficult matter to classify, analyze and
write definitively about.
Nevertheless, we can
say that in general, Russian women have a healthy and natural approach to
matters of a sexual nature.
Usually, Russian women
are passionate, sensual and spirited. The topic of sex is not the least
significant in their life. A lot of women write us that they are looking
for men who do not suffer from sexual problems. Some women even put this
information about wanting a healthy sexual life into their personals
Many years ago, this
topic was never discussed on Russia T.V. programs, wasn’t written about in
any Russian books and magazines, and was never discussed openly in Russian
society. For a long time, sex was not considered a topic for conversation,
especially amongst our mother’s and grandmother’s generation.
One of our staff
remembers a time when she studied in high school during an anatomy lesson,
and we were supposed to learn about the parts of the human body. When her
teacher (who is slightly older than her mother) was speaking about the
intimate parts of the body, she just skittishly gave them some minimal
information while her eyes were looking down, her cheeks were red, and
asked them to read everything ourselves at home. She was unsure about how
to speak about this topic. Because if this discomfort with speaking openly
about sexuality, a lot of young people learn about sexual topics on the
Internet and receive information from their friends, some of whom have had
lamentable stories regarding diseases, pregnancy, and having been
A Russian woman is
naturally a sensual and passionate lover, but all of these qualities are
usually tempered by the moral and social climate in Russia. The reasons
for this inhibition regarding talking about sex come from older times in
Russia. In Russian literature, for example, there are many examples and
stories that demonstrate that it is better to die than to kiss without
love. When we studied literature in school, the stories that we read never
mentioned sex or sexuality. Instead, they talked about love.
Women over 30 are more
conservative about this topic. Generally, it is easier to speak with a
woman under 30 about sex.
In our mother’s
generation, it was expected that a woman would wait to have sex until she
was married. It was very seldom that a woman’s husband abandoned her so
that she had to raise their child by herself. In our generation, there is
less pressure from society about how many boyfriends that a woman has had.
In fact, there are some Russian men who feel that it is better if their
Russian girlfriend has had more intimate experiences rather than less.
about this topic with a woman in your email, message or phone, it’s normal
to express your feelings, but do this very carefully and gradually. Do not
write very intimate things before meeting in person. Of course, once you
have met in person, you may communicate about many more subjects.
Another one of our
staff remembered one situation when she worked with a 31 year old woman.
She helped her to write and maintain communication with her foreign man.
After some months (about 3 or 4) he began write her very open and specific
thoughts and wishes about sex. Of course, she did not feel very
comfortable because first of all, she used the help of a translator and
she felt uncomfortable that she also read this information. A lot of women
we know hide the fact that they use a human translator, and their reaction
to receiving such a
letter could be negative especially when a man brings
up the subject of sex without having met with one another. Our this
Russian woman client was thinking that it’s not normal that this man wrote
to her so openly about sex before their meeting. After some letters, when
he continued to write in a more open and open way about his sexual
imagination, she just stopped communicating with him.
We can tell you that a
very serious Russian woman will not understand a foreign man who writes
very intimate things– for example, a man who writes about his favorite
positions. Do not smile, the man we wrote about above wrote about this to
the Russian woman for whom one of our staff was translating. Some men even
sent naked photos to their woman, or photos of themselves in their
We know and understand
that sex is an important topic in our life and that sometimes people are
not compatible partners in regards to this. Differences in sexuality can
even lead to unfaithfulness and even divorce.
However, we advise you
to discuss everything about such intimate subjects after meeting in person
when the moment for this topic becomes natural, normal and unforced. When
two people love each other and spend time together, then this topic is a
normal one to bring up. We think that perhaps it’s even not necessary to
discuss this topic, because your meeting will decide everything itself.
The chemistry between two potential partners is very important.
Here is what Svetlan
(Our old member) say: “I am trying to remember my communication with Edwin
regarding sex. We didn’t speak about sex at all during the time that we
communicated before our meeting. Why? :) I even do not know why we did not
speak about this. He didn’t begin to ask me about this or to discuss all
this with me, and I also did not speak bring up this topic with him. I
just knew that our meeting in person would decide everything.”
We want to say that if
a woman is older than 30 to 35, then she grew up with very moral beliefs,
perhaps even the same moral values that are in Russian classical
literature. During this present time, the living conditions of most
Russians don’t give women the environment to be a very open about their
sexuality. We know that most Russian women, even if they are very
passionate, will keep their emotions under control and will never open
their wishes in emails to men. Why do we mention a Russian woman’s living
condition? We will give you a common example of the effect of a Russian
woman’s living condition on her intimate life. Very often, married couples
live with his or her parents in an apartment. Usually, this apartment is
very small with 2 to 3 rooms and only one bathroom. These rooms usually
are not well-insulated—For example, if you want to go to the bathroom, you
need to first pass through another room. Even if a married couple lives in
a separate apartment, they often share their one room with their child.
The fear of waking up relatives and the risk of being heard doesn’t allow
a woman to be herself and to express her feelings. As we told you, as a
result, she tends to keep everything to herself.
We wrote you the
reality about this question and topic. Maybe it’s necessary to be a little
bit patient or just to initiate this topic very slowly and with
understanding that not every woman will be very open about this in her