realize that this may be the first time you have ever considered meeting a
woman by using a service such as ours. This section is intended to allow
you to benefit from the experience of others. By interviewing numerous men
and researching volumes of material, we have compiled a top-twenty list of
hints that will prove beneficial in your research for a foreign woman.
Even if you are an old hand at this, it's never too late to learn
1. Do Not Send Money!!!
Just like anywhere, there are honest people and there are dishonest
people. The point of your correspondence is to develop a special
relationship with a foreign woman, not to purchase one. We want you to be
aware that you may contact women who will ask you for money for one reason
or another. Remember it is a
matter of pride for any honest Russian and Ukrainian woman that no matter
how badly off she may be financially, if she is truly interested in you,
she will NOT ask you for money. It is that simple.
If you are asked for money it should immediately set off alarms and you
should proceed very cautiously. There are instances where there may be a
valid reason to send money to someone with whom you have been
corresponding for some time. In that instance it is recommended that you
send it via wire.
2. Send her the very
best photo of yourself that you can find. This is not one of you and your
mates drinking down the pub, one of you with your arm around some girl,
one with sunglasses, or one you need to squint so hard your eyes fall out
to see what you look like. If you don't have a good one, consider having a
professional one made. Don't make the mistake of writing to a beautiful
woman and sending her a poor quality photo of yourself. You want to know
what she looks like...Well, she is as curious about you as you are about
her, so try to get her attention by sending her something she will be
attracted to...an old, poor quality photo is not the best thing to send to
3. Honesty is the best
policy and lies are always discovered. Most of these women are highly
educated and they are looking for sincere, honest men who will treat them
with love and respect, please don't make the mistake of thinking that they
are ignorant or that you can treat them badly, after all, this is why they
do not want to marry many of the men from their own country. Treat her
like a princess, and she will become your princess. Also remember a
Russian or Ukrainian lady is very loyal and if you treat her right, your
Russian wife will never leave you because once you are in her heart, you
will stay there forever.
4. Remember when
writing your email/message that this woman's native language is not English. That
doesn't mean she will not be able to understand your email, but by
keeping it simple you will have a much better chance of successfully
communicating with her. Try to avoid using four- or five- syllable words;
instead of impressing her, you will probably just confuse her.
5. Write to as many
women as possible. By writing many women you greatly increase your chances
of success!!! The more attractive a woman, the more emails/messages she will
receive so when writing to these women it is especially important to write
to as many as possible.
6. This information is
there for a reason, you will be wasting your time as well as the lady's by
responding to a woman whom you know you will not be compatible with.
7. Write in Russian if
your recipient has difficulty translating English. Its important emails
is fully understood, so if there's any doubt as to the English proficiency
of the recipient, have the email translated before sending.
8. We suggest that you
register a separate email account (for example, at Gmail, Yahoo or Outlook) for this
campaign, so you will be able to track the results, and also close it down
when you have found your one and only. Any advertising campaign brings
plenty of junk mail, and publishing your real email address is unwise.
9. Try to keep the
initial email fast-paced. You certainly don't want to be discussing
things like marriage and what your children might look like in your first
email! You may want to tell her a little about yourself, where you were
raised, and what schools you have attended. Write a little about your
interests, hobbies, likes and dislikes. Basically, just write about things
that you would normally talk about on a first date.
10. Make sure you ask
her plenty of questions about herself in your first email. People like to
know that others are interested in them and their activities. By asking
questions about her she will think that you are interested in her as a
person and she will want to respond to you immediately.
If you want to get a
woman's attention make your email happy and interesting! Tell her about
yourself and where you live, what you like to do for fun, your goals and
your ambitions, and especially tell her what you are looking for in a
marriage partner, but most of all make it serious, or funny, or romantic.
Don't make it dull or sound like a form email. Women like to know lots of
details so try to describe things in a romantic way so she can almost see
and feel what it is that you are describing.
11. You may find it
useful to do some independent research on the country of origin of the
woman you are interested in. Not only will it impress the woman, but it
may save you from committing a gaffe. You must always remember that this
woman was raised in a totally different culture than our own. Obviously,
it is in your best interest to know as much as possible about that
12. Here are some
topics for use during telephone conversations. Ask everything about her
and forget about yourself. Get as much info as possible.
What is your typical
Where is your apartment?
Do you live with your parents?
Do you have any brothers or sisters?
Can you talk privately?
What is your idea of life in (Your country)?
Do you want children?
Do you want any more children?
If it's not a secret, how old are you?
Did you go to the university?
What is your field of study?
Are you religious?
Do you like cats?
What does a girl wear when meeting her future fiancee for the first time?
How should the man dress?
13. Be prepared to meet
your ladies. Unless you are willing to make the journey to meet your
chosen lady, there is no real point in writing to a lady, so consider this
when you start writing to her. Email writing is fine, up to a point,
until you've got to know her. At some point you have to meet her and
decide, or someone else will do it for you and you will have lost her.
14. Don't delay your
visit to see her personally. The average time between beginning of e-mail
exchanging and the visit to see a lady is about 6 months. Remember that
she joined a dating service, not a pen pal club. One visit is worth
hundreds of emails.
15. DON’T send pictures
of your houses, cars or boats on the first stages of your correspondence –
it will look like you are trying to buy a woman and not want her to fall
in love with you for who you are.
16. DON’T ask woman
about sex priorities and fantasies in the first email. Maybe it’s OK to
discuss it on later stage, but it’s not common in Russia and Ukraine to open your
heart and thoughts to a stranger at once.
17. Russian names use
unlike many others abbreviations, or “pet names”. When two people are in
love, usually they are calling each other with tender and loving names.
In the following table
we have placed the most common Russian names and their abbreviations and
“pet names”. If you are in correspondence with Russian woman and want to
show her a special attention – try to call her “pet name” and We bet she
would be surprised and pleased.
18. Write women who
will fit into your lifestyle. If you live in the country, far away from
larger cities avoid writing to the ladies who list their hobbies as
theatre, fashions, etc. Instead write to ones who enjoy nature, animals,
may be gardening & outdoor activities.
19. Be patient. This is
an important process and the results of the decision that you make will be
far reaching and long lasting. Take the time to correspond with many
different women before committing to that special one. One of the key
features of our service is that we are continuously updating our service
with new women, thus giving you new choices. This is an important
decisions that you will ever make, so please be patient, be thorough, and
most of all, enjoy the process.
20. The last and
probably most important tip of all is: These ladies dream about having a
caring and loyal husband. They dream about having a happy and loving
family with a secure future. These are the reasons why they leave their
countries, friends and relatives behind. So don’t lose sight of the fact
that it is morally very difficult for them to leave. They have a strong
sense of family and place. Your Russian wife will need your help to feel
she has made the right decision in leaving her home to find a new and